Girlfriend problems

[Stownplayer]

My girl cheated two days ago. She says she was drunk and that she's sorry. She does have a very low tolerance for alcohol. I'm talking about she get's screwed of a couple drinks. Anyway, let me know what you think. Should i dump the bitch, forgive her or dump her and get even with some dirty pics i have. I'm leaning toward forgiveness because she did not do this with the intent to cheat or hurt me. she just got too hammered and was in the wrong place at the wrong time. So she says.

[Kyle06]

I always say forgive and forget

yet I would have to know the person to tell if they where really sencear(spelling I know)

[The Hunter]

Sorry, but I would dump her like a hot potato. No offense Tater. I know I come off as an evil minded person at times, and I may be a dirty old man, but at heart Im a one girl type of guy. If she has a low tollerance for alcohol she should keep her snoot out of it, or suffer the consequences. Now thats just me, as I dont know how long you have been together, if its a serious relationship, or your ages.

[dubstylee]

*slam* 'bye

[The Hunter]

It kinda sounds like Dub and I have the same opinion. After being in many relationships, and one failed marrage, I have found that in my experience, if they cheat on you once, it will happen again. My wife thought I didnt know, but I was only keeping a home going to try and make things stable for my daughter. I really have been there and seen it.

[Wipeout]

Give her a chance and forgive her. If she does that again, time to say bye bye.

[MacGyver]

hehe, girls are good for 1 thing....besides that, they cost too much money...money i could be putting into my cars...

[RACKnRAIL]

I had this happen to me. Believe me; you will never be able to trust her again. I know how badly the loss can hurt, but I think it's for the best. Once a cheater...always...

[Krell]

Trust her . . dont trust her, it boils down to YOUR choice, and what you can live with.

In my off-hand opinion, I think you will not trust her, and will have a strained relationship from here on out. It takes a mighty big person inside to truly forgive and forget.

Is she a callous cheating bitch slut dog to the core? . . . I doubt it, but you two are only dating, are young, and probably need to get on with your lives and just chalk this up to an experience.

It doesnt matter who wins, or who feel whats blah blah blah . . . if you can part ways amicably and just go on about life, its best, trust me, it takes a LOT of work to dig an 8' deep hole.

But thats just me.


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[Gamer8585]

Hmmmmmm...Tough call. If you buy her story you should forgive her. If you think she's lying you should dump her and seek vengence. If you deside to keep her you can always guilt her into having sex with you.
Example:
You: Hey baby lets have sex.
GF: I don't feel like it tonight.
You: How about a couple of drinks.
GF: You're never going to let that go, are you?!
You: No way bitch you betrayed me. Now spread 'em!
GF: (Sigh) Alright...I do owe you.

[Atheist Icon]

Depending on how long you have been steady...I say Dump her. Alcohol (I have to wave a BS flag) is not an excuse, she knew what she was doing.

hehe, girls are good for 1 thing....besides that, they cost too much money...money i could be putting into my cars...

I hear you on that one man...They are good for something else too. Using their cars as Guiene(sp?) pigs for Big Block projects. Hehe. I'm trying to figure out how to fit a 460 with a C6 tranny in my Fiance 03 Mustang.


PS - Stownplayer, if you have any good pics...I say display them.

[MacGyver]

Depending on how long you have been steady...I say Dump her. Alcohol (I have to wave a BS flag) is not an excuse, she knew what she was doing.



I hear you on that one man...They are good for something else too. Using their cars as Guiene(sp?) pigs for Big Block projects. Hehe. I'm trying to figure out how to fit a 460 with a C6 tranny in my Fiance 03 Mustang.


PS - Stownplayer, if you have any good pics...I say display them.

Big block - Ahh... I hate engines with pistons....displacement like that is just a waste of mass...piston engines suck. you have to spin the crank 2 times just to get 1 power stroke....now.. my 1.3 litre rotary engine in my mazda is something else...no valves, no springs, no rocker arms, no cams, none of that parasitic energy stuff.. just rotary energy...much more efficient than caveman piston engines.

[Atheist Icon]

Big block - Ahh... I hate engines with pistons....displacement like that is just a waste of mass...piston engines suck. you have to spin the crank 2 times just to get 1 power stroke....now.. my 1.3 litre rotary engine in my mazda is something else...no valves, no springs, no rocker arms, no cams, none of that parasitic energy stuff.. just rotary energy...much more efficient than caveman piston engines.

Although this is a conversation for a different thread, I will humor you for 1 more post. While I love the rotary engine. I cannot work on it. I have never been able to work on it...I have tried. Most people that know about it, say, "It only have 3 moving parts in the motor". I cannot grasp the concept to make it work. Give me a reciprocating motor and I can work on it all day long. I chose the 460 because of the LARGE aftermarket for it. I am experimenting with some blowers and whether or not I should keep it carb'd or go EFI.

I have seen several 700+ rwhp rotary's with thousands upon thousands of dollars invested in them. But I have seen a lot of 460's with 700+ rwhp with only 4k invested in them...not bad.

PS - there is no replacement for displacement...well one...BOOOST!

[shawners]

DUMP Her now, or risk getting STD... Not enough mouth wash in the world could ever clean her mouth of some guys penis. When you get a girl.. whats in the past is in the past and done, dont ask for details of past relationships or you get jealous or wont trust the person.. Knowing details and stuff now, youll expect her to cheat and it will always be in back of your mind.

[MacGyver]

Although this is a conversation for a different thread, I will humor you for 1 more post. While I love the rotary engine. I cannot work on it. I have never been able to work on it...I have tried. Most people that know about it, say, "It only have 3 moving parts in the motor". I cannot grasp the concept to make it work. Give me a reciprocating motor and I can work on it all day long. I chose the 460 because of the LARGE aftermarket for it. I am experimenting with some blowers and whether or not I should keep it carb'd or go EFI.

I have seen several 700+ rwhp rotary's with thousands upon thousands of dollars invested in them. But I have seen a lot of 460's with 700+ rwhp with only 4k invested in them...not bad.

PS - there is no replacement for displacement...well one...BOOOST!

Its really really really easy to understand...check out...

WWW.ROTARYENGINEILLUSTRATED.COM

I had a mazda 13b dual rotor engine in my focus after i blew up the stock I4 motor.. Converted it to RWD to make that work. Trust me rotary engines are 10000 times easier to work on than piston engines once you understand how they work....

[Potato]

Forgive her, but break up.

Guys are only good for one thing, too. It goes both ways, assholes.

[uselesscrap]

Forgive her, but break up.

Guys are only good for one thing, too. It goes both ways, assholes.

Don't be hurt by their ignorant remarks. It is a two-way street baby, but forgiving is good advice...it's forgetting that's hard. Trust is a huge part of a relationship, that's for sure.

[Jorge]

say goodbye, then post photos on faces.

[Lord_of_the_Dense]

Sorry, but I would dump her like a hot potato. No offense Tater. I know I come off as an evil minded person at times, and I may be a dirty old man, but at heart Im a one girl type of guy. If she has a low tollerance for alcohol she should keep her snoot out of it, or suffer the consequences. Now thats just me, as I dont know how long you have been together, if its a serious relationship, or your ages.

Been down this same exact road.

I think the length of the relationship can be a factor. My ex-wife cheated on me on the Saturday before Easter and then told me Easter morning when I was stationed in Germany and she was in the states. I forgave her but I guess it didn't matter. We didn't last 6 mojnths past that.

Dunno, I don't think I could ease myself from wondering if it was her I was tasting or if it was her with a hint of neighborhood stud.

[CRLocky]

say goodbye, then post photos on faces.

I Concur.

I second this.

[vixenk]

I think you should forgive her this one time, but make it clear to her that she needs to make sure that this kind of thing does not happen again... whether it means her only drinking with you around or only drinking when she's around people that she knows won't take advantage of her.

If it happens again though, I say dump her. You don't need a girlfriend *or boyfriend, for that matter* that doesn't have enough foresight to know when to just say no.

I don't drink at all around strange guys or guys I don't trust without having a good friend or my boyfriend around that will make sure I don't get taken advantage of or do anything I would regret the next day... alcohol is well known to lower inhibitions, and even though your girl has a low tolerance for alcohol, that's no excuse for this to happen again. If she didn't know she had a low tolerance for it before, she knows now, and should take the proper precautions.

Just imho...

[Atheist Icon]

say goodbye, then post photos on faces.

and/or www.nowthatsfuckedup.com

[VAMPYRE BLADE]

Only You Truly Know Her And If Or Not You Can Trust Her Again, You Have To Look Into Yourself For The Answer You Seek, No One Here Can Give You Advice Without Knowing You And Her Personally.

[angryinvalid]

You need to dump her with a quickness

I think you should forgive her this one time, but make it clear to her that she needs to make sure that this kind of thing does not happen again...

Unless her previous understanding was that it was ok for her to do other guys the above quote is ridiculous.

Alcohol is no excuse, she knew what she was doing.

I love my girlfriend with all my heart, and if she ever did that to me I would know that she's not the person that I mistook her for.

Your girlfriend is an ignoble creature. End it. But don't post pictures of her, that would be an indecent violation of trust, that would lower you, making you ignoble as well. There's an argument that she's undeserving of trust/honesty from you, but that's not the point. It doesn't have to do with who she is, it has to do with who you are.

Revenge: rise above it, concern yourself not with the satisfaction of reciprocal malice, but preserve your character, this will eventually be a greater comfort to you.

The Girl: Whether it would happen again (seems likely) is not an important question. She spat on you, and what you guys had, so that she could get drilled by some other guy, and now she'd stll like to keep you/ your relationship?
"Throw the baggage out, and let the hell-cat freeze"
--Rex Harrison

[Lord_of_the_Dense]

and/or www.nowthatsfuckedup.com

Now that was fucked up.

Yeah, post her there if you dump her. :drunken_s

[FrozenShadow23]

damn Lose her dude, if she cheats, she's a problem. Respect yourself and don't let girls walk all over you. Especially don't try to make it okay by saying she's quick to get drunk, that doesn't make it okay. She shouldn't have put herself in that position to begin with.

It really comes down to two things, are you comprimising any of your morals by keeping her? If so, dump her. Can you trust her? If not dump her.

Remember, you should matter more than her.

On a side note, girls, please don't think all guys are assholes who believe you're only good for one thing. Just most of us.

[DwarfBaby]

I think you need to view this as a positive thing. You now have a free ticket to ah "get really drunk" around the hottest girl you know. I realize that sounds bad but in my personal experience it will happen again, might as well get back at her.

At least you didn't find out because you contracted a particularly common but curable STD from the bitch, then have her blame you in court. And because you were away in Germany for Uncle Sam for 11 months the lesbian Judge believes her and she get's the damned house and a $900 dollar monthly alimony courtesy of yours truly.

As I said think of it as a positive because it sure as hell could be worse.

[Excrement_Cranium]

Some rotten b!+ch did the same thing to me. Wanna know what I did? I married her, and we had a couple kids. September will be year 6 of marraige, and we have been together since 1996. I don't regret it one bit. But you must understand, even with forgiveness, this is something you will face for the REST of your life. It still takes little bites out of me at times. My situation was worse, because I was there, drunk and passed out. You are right to be angry at THE SITUATION. The next step is to let her know, if she places herself in this situation again... it's peace out.


Edit: If you decide to dump her, you also need to remember to do her sister, or her best friend. Just because.

A fine Example:
http://www.ebaumsworld.com/homebase.html

Edit II: The Sexist Menace: Girls are good for more than one thing guys. At least they should be. I always liked a mean sandwich after the first thing they are good for.

[DwarfBaby]

On a side note, girls, please don't think all guys are assholes who believe you're only good for one thing. Just most of us.

I'm going to dissagree with that one.

I've come to the conclusion that all women are crazy. Why? Because all men are all assholes. Unless their gay, in which case their crazy too.

[seraph]

girls --> can't live with them, can't live without them!

[Kyle06]

Dude don't post pictures of her on the net. In my openion that's just wrong
and that misplaceing the trust she put in you....

[Afn]

Your girlfriend is an ignoble creature. End it. But don't post pictures of her, that would be an indecent violation of trust, that would lower you, making you ignoble as well.

If you post her photos on the net, it would be funny as hell. I do not think public posting is a violation of trust. If you value momagonmous relationships, then you need to break up with her.

Your going to have serious trust issues if you stay with her.

[ferrarimodena360]

date her sister or her friend

[kita]

kick her in throat & stab her :bom:

[gothic_hobbit]

Wow.... Seeing threads like this makes me feel lucky that i'm free and single...

[cheapprick]

Anyone willing to blame their behavior on alcohol is low. No matter how drunk she became on some basic level she knew she was doing wrong. She's trying to use alcohol to pin her choice on. Next time she might not even need the alcohol because she knows you'll likely forgive her anyway.

There are faithful people out there I'm told. Find one of them. If, however, you feel the need to cheat on that person, reach down and pull your penis off for being an asshole.

[Auggie2k]

Dont dump her, you go out and get fluthered and hook up with some bird! Then your even! Just a suggestion to keep her, get even and get some bootie!

[ratbag]

do not seek revenge
do not do the same as her
just move on

[angryinvalid]

again, alcohol is no excuse. A decent woman would refuse another guy right up to the point of passing out.

[uselesscrap]

again, alcohol is no excuse. A decent woman would refuse another guy right up to the point of passing out.

That is true, but men have two heads and when the little one does the thinking... :drunken_s

[cjules13]

Dude don't post pictures of her on the net. In my openion that's just wrong
and that misplaceing the trust she put in you....

What about the trust he put in her not to fuck other guys?

Forget, dump the bitch, you a'in't got time for that... and they're plenty women who are trustworthy enough not to go behind your back.

[angryinvalid]

That is true, but men have two heads and when the little one does the thinking... :drunken_s

I'm not sure what that's supposed to mean, but if you're implying that it's ok for a man to obey his rod and cheat then you're a out of line. Men have stronger drive, and it can be more difficult, but we have to hold ourselves to the same standard of faithfullness : 100%

to the point of passing out, and the point of maximum arousal the answer must be " no, i belong to someone".

She failed. She's fired. Devil take her.

[Miniver]

Garbage, garbage, garbage. She cared enough to tell you didn't she? You have to make your own decision, but consider this, if she wanted to she didn't have to tell you at all. You'd have gone along being as happy as you were. Think of what she means to you and consider whether you can give her another chance. Even the most trustworthy of people make mistakes.

You are asking the wrong crowd for dating advice.

[cjules13]

That's the one mistake people shouldn't tolerate.

[FrozenShadow23]

It's depressing to see the level some people will go in this thread. Revenge? Why? Is it gonna do shit? You just wanna see more naked pictures of girls. If you were so disgusted with her, why ask for pictures?

The idea that guys are assholes or gay is rediculous. I'm an asshole, but not to my girl. I wouldn't be unless she deserved it. I'm really actually only an asshole to idiots. But again, I've seen more than a few guys (one's a good friend of mine) who aren't gay and aren't asses. But guess what? They seem to have the worst time getting girls....

Intersting isn't it?

[the great one]

I say give her one more chance,if she does it again then kick her to the curb.

[moneoa]

I am sure she really regretted it when she was screwing the guy. :icon_shak

After dealing with my mothers alcoholic husband I have realised that allot of people use booze as a real shitty exscuse to pardon their actions. If you keep dating her it will only happen again

"whoops, I was at another party and this really hot guy came with a friend of mine, I had too much to drink and we had sex"

If you guys are good friends before the relationship then forgive but still break up.
Other than that don't let such a poor exscuse for infidelity open you up to more hurt

[gurhan_71]

i do not have any girlfriend

[vipp]

Anyone willing to blame their behavior on alcohol is low. No matter how drunk she became on some basic level she knew she was doing wrong. She's trying to use alcohol to pin her choice on. Next time she might not even need the alcohol because she knows you'll likely forgive her anyway.



This sums up my answer 100%.

[grab_grab_the_haddock]

To be honest, you sound like a pansy, so I can hardly blame her for cheating on you in the first place.

It's time to be a man for once and give her sorry ass the boot.

As for the revenge thing. Sounds like a petty, vindictive and childish thing to do. So i suspect this will be your choice.

[FrozenShadow23]

Such a blunt and perfect answer haddock.

:icon_thum

[Stownplayer]

I've analyzed all the facts and the truth is she got messed up and something happened. She did not have the intent to hurt me or be in that situation. I will be the better person and show her what love is by forgiving her. We worked out some ground rules
1. no going out drinking without a close friend or me around.
2. REALLY work hard to rebuild my trust in her.
3. Understanding that i won't forget this overnight and i might give some low blows at times. But, i will try my best to never rub it in her face.

Ya'll get the picture. I appreciate everyones comments and i must admitt i was leaning toward dumping her and making a website for her nude pics and videos. But, in my old age i grow weak and my hard core side has fallen to the wayside. So I will forgive and Try to push this way to the back of my mind. I know i'll never forget. All of this because she confessed this to me, apologized and really feels like shit about everything that happed. Plus i love her and our daughter.

But, if this shit happens again i'll post the site for all to see. I won't be fucked with twice. After all , gotta stay true to the name.


Oh yeah and Grab the cock, You are a voice of irritation not reason so fuck off and don't say shit if you can't ever say anything nice. You don't know me so don't label me a pansy.

[grab_grab_the_haddock]

I can only guess at the new found passion and zest injected into your relationship through a thread on a p2p bulletin board.

[moneoa]

We worked out some ground rules
1. no going out drinking without a close friend or me around.
2. REALLY work hard to rebuild my trust in her.

The first two are in conflict my friend
You can't realistically regain trust if you feel she needs to be monitored every time she has a drink
because at some point she would ask why you had to if you DO trust her.
I respect your decision but you might find it's harder than that.

[bigflavor]

yo,

easy decision.

tell her you need time. then disappear from her life for a few weeks. if after that she's calling you, crying, and/or crawling back like the whore she is; then forgive her.

she shattered your trust. stop wasting your time. make her chase you down.


if you're in love with her, then the above will still work... less the "whore" and "stop wasting your time" part.

you should still be in a position to have her come back to you.


edit your first post to let us know what happened.


peace,

matt

[Lofty]

I agree with Moneoa. Also, it's ultimately up to her is she drinks or not and in what circumstances. But if it happens again, then she should have known better after the first time. Give her the benefit of the doubt, but ask her - Is this going to happen again? - Assuming she says No, then that's the deal, but it's up to her what risks she takes.

[Lofty]

'course, ultimately it's up to you how you decide to handle things, and I sincerely hope it works out.

[MACvSOG]

I say only give it another chance because of the kid. If there was no child involved I would go tell her to play in the street.
But know this.......she will do it again.

[vixenk]

The first two are in conflict my friend
You can't realistically regain trust if you feel she needs to be monitored every time she has a drink
because at some point she would ask why you had to if you DO trust her.
I respect your decision but you might find it's harder than that.

I don't think it's really a trust issue, but a common sense one. If it was a trust issue he would require her to have a friend or him around her at all times. But having a close friend or your boyfriend around when you go out drinking is just good old fashioned common sense. I don't care what anyone says, you cannot fully trust that your reason or judgement is going to be fully intact when you're wasted.

Why do you think there are so many wrecks due to drunk drivers? Why do you think that people that are normally calm and reasonable will get hammered and all of a sudden be smashing their fist through someone's face because they bumped into them? It's not just the double vision... I've seen some of the nicest people you could ever meet turn into monsters when they drink.

[duct_tape]

you guys that say that girls are only good for one thing, you guys are idiots. and for the people that are saying dump the bitch, or get rid of her. fuck. she made a mistake. she told him what happend. that's it. just drop it. everyone makes mistakes... stay with her man, but again, if she does it again, and she uses the same story, tell her u have to call it off.

[Krell]

I don't think it's really a trust issue, but a common sense one. If it was a trust issue he would require her to have a friend or him around her at all times.


YES, it is.

People earn each others trust, and when it is BETRAYED then one has to reconsider if any additional can be allocated.

Go ahead vixenk (member.php?u=208959) . . cheat on me, . . and I will cease to trust you. See how that works? Let me give you a bit of advice, stop watching Orpah, its affecting your judgement.

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[The Hunter]

I said it before, and Im saying it again. It is a trust issue, and I highly doubt that you will be able to honestly trust her again. It aint the booze that caused her to do this. Liquor only releases any inhibitions, it does not create thoughts. The thoughts were already there, the booze just gave her an excuse to act on her feelings.

[grab_grab_the_haddock]

you guys that say that girls are only good for one thing, you guys are idiots. .

I completely agree. Women are useful for so much more than just one thing. They can also cook, clean, iron, be tea ladies, dinner ladies, topless models, porn stars...and so many other things that are useful in the service of men.

[Potato]

I completely agree. Women are useful for so much more than just one thing. They can also cook, clean, iron, be tea ladies, dinner ladies, topless models, porn stars...and so many other things that are useful in the service of men.

I hate you.

[Krell]

LOL . . . I have to admit, I saw that post coming a mile away Potato :D

It's like grab_grabs own little "Fishing for Hatred" late night show


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[vixenk]

Krell, you are misquoting me. I was referring to a post someone made saying that him asking his girlfriend to bring someone along was an automatic sign of distrust and that eventually she will ask why he distrusts him. I was pointing out that just because you want your significant other to bring someone along when they go out drinking does NOT always mean you distrust them. It can simply be concern for their safety.

The guy that made this post already made it clear that he's going to need time to regain trust in her, which is understandable. But asking she bring a good friend along with her when she goes out drinking does NOT equal "being monitored". It's just common sense.

Go ahead vixenk . . cheat on me, . . and I will cease to trust you.

Wow, I didn't know we were dating.

Well, since we are dating and all, you don't have to worry about me cheating on you, lol. ;)

stop watching Orpah, its affecting your judgement.

For the record, I hate Oprah.

[Lehk]

Dump her for your own safety, what if she picked up HIV or something else when she cheated on you? If you can't trust her not to get drunk enough to cheat then you can't trust her at all.

[gothic_hobbit]

The words 'pussy whipped' come to mind...

[wingnut2600]

Is it wrong that the only thing I can think of when I read the initial posting is the dirty pics? Perhaps we should all see these so that we can make a better decision...

All jokes aside... you are the only person that can make the decision. we are all basing our opinions on limited information. Can you trust this person? Is being drunk ever an excuse?

[grab_grab_the_haddock]

I hate you.


oh such drama! Now why don't you run along and make me a nice cup of tea? Good girl. :icon_thum

[kebis]

dump her and send me the pics:)

[grab_grab_the_haddock]

Is it wrong that the only thing I can think of when I read the initial posting is the dirty pics? Perhaps we should all see these so that we can make a better decision...



You have to use your imagination no more wingnut, because it seems stownplayer has made good on his threat. This revealing pic of his girlfriend is now circulating the cyber community. Lets hope its the first of many.

http://img38.echo.cx/img38/8268/shemalelover022zf.jpg

[Digital Bliss]

kill her and make a skin suit?

[Krell]

http://img38.echo.cx/img38/8268/shemalelover022zf.jpg

Skin that and make a sofa


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[Excrement_Cranium]

Okay... I'll flip flop.

Dump her. But first, screw the shit out of her like a bad porn movie.

[RACKnRAIL]

You have to use your imagination no more wingnut, because it seems stownplayer has made good on his threat. This revealing pic of his girlfriend is now circulating the cyber community. Lets hope its the first of many.

http://img38.echo.cx/img38/8268/shemalelover022zf.jpg

Is that what the grab grab stands for?

[angryinvalid]

wow you had a kid?

She's the devil.

This whole "she made a mistake" forgive her, type crap I keep hearing has to stop.

a mistake is when you're sleepy in the morning and you start to put your left shoe on your right foot.


She kissed a guy, stripped down, went to a room where they could be alone together, played with his cock, took her clothes off and let him slam her.

That's not a mistake, and that's not an accident. That's a decision she made.

she decided that spreading her legs and getting pounded by a new guy was more important than your love or her daughter. I don't know of a word that adequately describes a creature that low.

[angryinvalid]

the question here should no longer be whether or not to dump her, but whether or not to kill her and make her parents watch.

[Wipeout]

Why does she deserves to be killed?

[Stownplayer]

the question here should no longer be whether or not to dump her, but whether or not to kill her and make her parents watch.


Dude, you might need to take your medicine. It didnt happen like that.

[The Hunter]

As some of the comments are uncalled for, and a bit too rude, Im closing this.